In criminal court blame goes on the perpetrator. In civil court blame is given to parents, elders, congregations and headquarters. I understand where johnamos is coming from as well as everyone saying don't blame the parents. It all boils down to culpability. In every civil case the finger is pointed at parents by the Watchtower legal team. But often times parents hardly have any measure of culpability because they where never made aware of an abusers past. It's that malfeasance of Watchtower's policy which shields pedophiles from discovery that they are paying for in court today.
If a JW parent learns their child has been abused yes they should go to the police first but they don't because they believe they are making Jehovah sad if they do. Why do they feel that way? Who has conditioned them to feel that way? JW parents put the organization first before their own children. To place the blame squarely on them for not going to the police is ignoring the underlying issues and that is what upsets people when others start pointing their finger at parents.